Are You Dating with Social Anxieties? Here are The Pre-Date Tips

Harlem East Life Plan
2 min readAug 17, 2022

Are you planning to go on a date? Well, it may feel like embarking on an intimate interview. And it feels more vulnerable, awkward, emotionally and physically uncomfortable if you have social anxieties. Social anxiety makes you avoid social scenarios and may hamper your dating altogether.

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Reasons how social anxiety becomes a barrier to dating -

Suppose you are socially anxious. You might have some fears associated with dating. Such social features include:

· Not knowing how to communicate

· Fear of getting judged

· Phobia of being humiliated or embarrassed

· Being the centre of the attention

· Experiencing overwhelming negative self-talk

· Physical responses like nausea, blushing, racing thoughts, shaving, and panic attacks

Appearing emotionally unstable may lead to emotional dilemmas. So, how to embark on a date stress-free? Here’s what the professionals of mental health and wellness New York City recommend.

Visit a park on your first date -

A park might be an incredible first dating spot! But, for individuals with social anxiety, dating might feel hard to maintain groundedness. So, being amidst Mother Nature helps combat it.

Enjoy an activity together -

Discovering an activity that you will enjoy is a great way to spend time on your first date. That may look like watching a movie, visiting a museum, playing the mini-golf, cooking, or taking a painting class. Partaking in activities takes off the pressure of conversation.

Set a beginning and end time for dating -

When you set the start & end time, it alleviates your social anxiety symptoms. Often when you have anxiety, some factors feel out of your control. So people with anxious tendencies may feel out of control.

As a result, they feel unsafe. It might kick start a fight or flight response. Rather than avoiding such situations, try finding certain factors that are in your utmost control. Selecting the start &end time for your date will make you feel more secure and safe!

Besides, you can practice coping skills. You also need to disrupt any kind of self-talks during the date. With these considerations in mind, you can go on a date with confidence.

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